Victimisation is a quite dangerous evil strategy…
Publicado em 18/04/2024
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The drama of victimisation turns out to be one of astonishing torture for people with whom the "always victim" lives.
The worst of all diseases, because human being who becomes addicted to victimising themselves before the world that shows victimisation always ends up in transforming all realm of perceptions into naked, cruel and painful realities.
The problem for those who get a passion for self-victimisation is not only in the damage they cause to themselves, which is terrible, but also the worst of all, living under endless search for reasons to justify their atrocious belief. And no matter where you are, with whom or how, there are people who always find good and great reasons to play the game of "look how am I a victim," .
Of course, they will always identify the "guilted," I mean the others, the system, or worse, blame the society and get a dark sense of " It´s worth while living this way."
The drama of victimisation turns out to be one of astonishing torture for people with whom the "always victim" lives.
An old well known Hanna Barbera cartoon displays a pair of inseparable friends , Hardy the hyena and Lippy the lion, where Hardy plays a dramatised “unlucky and victimised” character, using the emblematic proclaiming phrase “ Oh life!, Oh world!, oh bad luck!…. It won´t work!” Thinking and acting like that, Hardy, who do loves to victimise himself, ends up being a cruel “victimiser” for Lippy who´s portrait, on the contrary, admirable positiveness, always responding Hardy with an equally emblematic phrase: "Cheer up Harddy, it could be worse"!
This cartoon clearly shows, even on a hidden way, how victimisation can causes terrible damage to everyone´s environment no matter children, family members, and the people you love, including friends and workmates around.
However, victimisation can also be used in human groups, and even in entire nations as a “domination game”. This point becomes noticeable and evident as deep as we observe some leaders behavior, whether being from a company or country, always using this “ Victim Syndrome”, accusing others, third parties and everyone, for all problematic or challenging situations he or she´s unprepared to deal with.
Therefore, this “fake leader” never fulfil those promised false illusions to those under his leadership.
So, hidden in the art of victimisation, using a parabole, “ we´ll find out not only wars but also the worst atrocities, as it were industrially developed death camps to exterminate “those” unfairly blamed for our misfortunes.
In this way, as in an apocalyptic professional war, the “victims of protection”, prefer to “exterminate” the guilted first. In short, “ victims who satisfy themselves” by creating victims.
This circle of endless sacrifices explains hell on earth, with torture and suffering that arise and get up from cycle to cycle.
In other words, the “victimisation strategy” is a ridiculous clumsy way of command and leadership.
However, every form of vile victimisation doesn´t work. It is actually nothing but bad luck for those who practices it consciously or unconsciously.
Just take a look at history and its results from the growth of the “ war of victims”, created under the proposal to establish false power, to understand the collapse of it. Hereby, we can start to understand the slow but inexorable steps of human being evolution on earth.
Have you ever been a victim? This is my question which leads me to knock at my past door that never closes! Yes. In my case, it´s happened when I was aged 4, when a can of boiling and blazing wax destroyed my face.
There was ,actually and literally, a victim at that unfortunate flash space of time.
So, may be you ask: What does my misfortune have to do with the “ victimisation syndrome”? I answer it myself: everything!
That moment could turn me into a real victim, forging my body and mind misery into a kind of life strategy, victimizing myself and blaming all my terrible accident on whoever threw the can of blazing wax, and , therefore, turning me into an unhappy victim forever and ever. And, on other hand, my foster blessed parents, could also have transformed that awful moment , into an eternal victimisation for what accidentally they´ve caused me. But they didn't! On the contrary they gave me an indiscribable strenght instead!
My sweet foster mumy , I remember, every time used to whisper in my ears, while we were shopping at the open air market, under those staring from the neighbourhood eager for sickinly details over my tragedy: " pay attention to the potatoes - she said- just to potatoes,ok?".
Those words were, undoubtedly, the most powerful sparkling beam starting enlighting my freedom. These careness words really freed me from the aching metal cuffs of life which, in no mercy, usually paralises all the victims.
My misfortune, could be a life shortcut producing, at that very moment , a victim using a “ victim life strategy”, victimising myself and blame on whom threw that can of boiling wax towards the backyard, and turning me into an unhappy victim forever and ever.
And, referring to my foster parents, they could transformed that moment into a victim, themselves, through a mind painful an eternal victimisation due to that terrible disaster accidentally caused to me
It´s the reason I claim for everyone, Freedom to stop being a “victim”.
Bet it´s the greatest of all human overcomings, as victimisation is a ruthless torture for everyone and those surrounding.
Victims: They are the ones who are able to “crucify the crucified”!
*José Luiz Tejon has a doctorate in Education from the Universidad de La Empresa/Uruguay, a Master's Degree in Art Education and History of Culture from Mackenzie University, a Journalist and Publicist, with specialisations at Harvard, MIT and PACE/USA and Insead in France. Columnist for Rádio Eldorado and Estadão On-line, author and co-author of 35 books. Academic Coordinator of Master Science Food & Agribusiness Management at Audencia in Nantes/France and FECAP/Brazil. Managing Partner of Biomarketing and TCA International. Professional Head Agro Anefac. ABAG Agro Personality Award 2023. Former Director of Grupo Estadão, Agroceres and Jacto S/A.
